Ode to the Nice Guys

Another article from the net I would love to share with those who havent read this. It's the "Ode to the Nice guys".Its here

Ode to the Nice Guys

This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.

The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.

So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.

Although it would be an absolute mistake to use this article to come to stereotypical conclusions but this article I believe is somewhat accurate in what it says.The question is not who does this article apply to?We don't care about who or how. What we do care is why does this happen? Why don't we speak our heart out to whom we love? Why is it widely believed that love ruins ones friendship?If it is then is it true? A myriad of questions pop-up in my mind when I read this article and felt I might get some answers if I shared this with some others who might give it a thought too.So do tell me your take on this article.


There are many different and newer vesions of Ode to nice guys and there are even a few articles on Ode to the Nice Girls. All the links can be found here.

2009 for me so far

I was bored to death in the first month of 2009.Living without friends isn't exactly the best experience when you are so free.Well,I miserably struggled through those boring days with nothing to do except watch TV with a few occassional highs when I talked to frends back in S'pore or when I saw the MV of Masakalli(Delhi 6-bollywood movie) on TV.
Things totally changed when I came back to S'pore. Life really flipped 180 degrees from boring to super-happening in just a few days after arriving here. Every single day here this year has a different tale to tell. The friends and the freedom is what makes it so nice. Did a lot of stuff these days.Been to the beach at around 3am on a sunday morning coz we had nothing better to do; cooking my first meal; almost getting knocked down by cars on a street coz I ran across the street even after the light turned RED(I was running and was damn tired to think); countless sleepless nights on a couch watching boring Bollywood romantic flicks; numerous calls made to check for job vacancy; after plenty of calls,interviews and application forms finally getting my first taste of the working world; my first most cherished weekend after a week or hard work; cooking a meal with buddies @ Sunday Love(event); First time getting FIRED from a job coz I couldn't meet the requirements; my first pay check(hard earned cash); out with friends on the World's Tallest Ferris Wheel-Singapore Flyer(won a free ticket at a competition)and last but not the least my first post of the year 2009.Eventful it has been, and much more fun than last year. With all my failures I've only gained more experience.With all my joyous moments, I've collected enough memories to get by this year happily. 2009 continue to surprise me and give me a new experience every single day.

Limericks

I found these on the net. I think they are pretty interesting- language meets science/maths.

1) A woman in liquor production
Owns a still of exquisite construction.
The alcohol boils
Through magnetic coils.
She says that it's "proof by induction."

2) A programmer started to cuss
Because getting to sleep was a fuss
As he lay there in bed
Looping 'round in his head
was: while(!asleep()) sheep++;

3) if(computer.fail==true){
background.setColor(blue);
user.frown();
sys.shutdown();
user.scream("OH, **** YOU");}

Friendship vs Relationship

The title may seem intimidating but Im not gonna try to make a point. I just wanted to share about something I read up on the net.All credits go to 'nota' from everything2.com
Here it is:

When we were friends, just friends, we were free. We could talk and be honest about who we were. We could share our selves with each other. Unfortunately, perhaps, we then fell in love, and even made that ultimate choice.

We began making a life together. We cooked dinner for two, put our laundry in the same basket, and used the same bank account. We may as well have become the same person. But somewhere along the line we forgot what made us fall in love. We stopped talking about our selves and discussed the bills instead. We had become a couple.

I suppose I have a different attitude than most as to what makes lovers love. I look around, see other couples, and they seem content to have a steady dinner partner and a steady lay. They're satisfied with the routine of daily living and don't seem to mind that there appears nothing new to discover about each other. I can't do that. I want to be with you because we can share us, not the mortgage.

We fell into that rut, you and I, and forgot to be friends.

I don't love my spouse. I love that best friend I once had. Where are we, old friends, now that we've become "intimate"? Is having a romantic liason intimate if the people involved are no longer friends? Or is it the feeling of obligation that makes you withdraw?

I know you're still in there, but is being a couple what keeps you away? If that's the case, let's lose that piece of paper. Be my friend again.

No point made. Think for yourself and decide.

US VP candidate-Sarah Palin!!

Sarah Palin might not be chosen to contest for VP for her wits but for other reasons.Heres a video which proves it.


Another Video shows how smart is the new VP contestant- Sarah Palin and how much the fellow Americans love her.Enjoy!


Did you understand a single sentence she said or should I say did her train of words make any sense. God bless America if this women becomes the VP.

Deduction 1: Mc Cain is a old perv.
Deduction 2: Mc Cain is not going to be the President with Palin as Vice if Americans have recognised Palin's "vast knowledge" about American policies.

Bottomline: Some politics are really entertaining. Even youths like me and you can fully enjoy it. Keep up with the US politics for now. Its hilarious...

Large Hadron Rap

PS: This is a follow up of my previous post titled 'the Big Bang experiment

I found a video on Youtube about the Large Hadron Collider and the Big Bang experiment. It explains the physics involved in this experiment and related theories in question. And guess what...its a RAP...my favourite genre of music.For those of you who are lazy to go and find out about the world's greatest experiment I have uploaded the rap video in this post.

However to enjoy the lyrics of the rap you should have some general idea about particle physics and the Large Hadron Collider. Anyhow there is no harm listening even if you have no clue.Here it is:


The lyrics for the rap can be found here

Enjoy

the BIG BANG experiment

Yesterday (10th September) was the trial run for the "Big Bang experiment". If you have no idea what the Big Bang Experiment is all about continue to read on and it will not fail to amaze you.

Scientists involved in this experiment are trying to simulate the first few moments of the Big Bang and try to understand how the Earth was formed and also clarify some concepts about the fundamental nature of physics using it.

It is performed in Europe with scientists from over 80 nations.It is done in a 27 km tunnel which houses a Large Hadron Collider(LHC) which is a high energy particle accelerator.What they do is send 2 beams of protons at near the speed of light across the 27 km and the 2 beams converge at various points. The scientists believe that when 2 beams collide at near speed of light it could lead to some form of energy which would end up in the "birth" of some new particle. Rightly pointed out by the PTI this is a multi national "mother of all experiments".

The layout of the tunnel(left). Inside the tunnel(right)

Image Courtesy:
http://www.finfacts.ie/
http://coraifeartaigh.wordpress.com/2008/04/

However some people question the safety of this experiment.There are some who fear the creation of a "black hole" due to the high energy collisions.There has been much media hype about this experiment and its safety but the scientists involved believe that there is no threat from this high energy particle collisions.

The first high energy collision is planned to take place some time in October. Let see what happens then...

For further information about LHC or the Big Bang Experiment check out the links below-
LHC Homepage: http://lhc.web.cern.ch/lhc/
NatGeo Article : http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2008/03/god-particle/achenbach-text
BBC News Article: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/science/nature/7604293.stm

Adios.

First Post

Hi all, this is my first post.Hope this wont be the last. I had started blogs a few times before this, but i couldn't commit to any. Now I have decided to settle with this one. I ll also try to post often to keep you updated.In the meantime chew on this: